New Year's Resolutions
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Yeah, that’s right. I said it. Get rid of those resolutions. Enough with the “new year, new me” nonsense. It’s time to start accomplishing what you want, not just dreaming about it. And it doesn’t have to start on January 1, 2016. It starts today. And every day after that. 

Every year, roughly 40-50 percent of people make a New Year’s resolution -- get fit, get rich, find love, etc., according to research by psychology professor John C. Norcross of the University of Scranton. Shockingly, about 25 percent of those people abandon their resolution in the first week. How’s that for the odds not in your favor? The numbers continue to dwindle as time goes on. So what’s a girl to do?

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Extensive research has been done surrounding why people are not successful in their attempts to change and most often, it comes down to not having realistic goals in mind. It always seems so much better in your head. If you eat well and exercise regularly you should be able to lose 20 pounds in three months. But think about it? Is that healthy for you and your schedule? Will you exercise every single day? What happens when you’re sick? Or you have other obligations? It’s in these moments we become our worst enemies as we let the frustration and the guilt sink in.

Becoming your best self means starting exactly where you are. Follow these five steps to get rid of your resolutions and start achieving your goals for this year:

1.    What is your goal? Resolve is the carpet cleaner my abuela used to use when she had company. Resolving to do something isn’t going to make it happen. Think hard about this for long-term and short-term goals. What do you really want to do this year? Can you make it happen?

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2.    What’s your plan? How are you going to reach your goal? What do you need to accomplish it? Is it waking up a half hour earlier to work out? Deleting the Seamless and GrubHub apps off of your phone? Journaling after a breakup to finally let go of your anger? Use this as your plan of attack.

3.    How long is this going to take? Nothing happens overnight. Think about how long it will take you to reach your goal and add a little more time to that. We decide to quit when things get too hard and we don’t feel successful. Give yourself enough credit and respect yourself enough to know it’s going to take a while to get there. And it’s all worth it.

4.    Is your goal realistic? Think long and hard about this. You know yourself best and this is where it’s all about you. Will you be able to land that promotion in six months? If so, what does that mean for your work/life balance? Don’t let yourself get lost in the grind to reach your goal.

5.    Enjoy the process. Every day is a new day and it’s a new chance to meet your short and long-term goals. Some days will be great and some days you’ll wish you had done a little better. And that’s okay! It’s healthy. Don’t let the guilt and the little negative voice in your head win. Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither were you. Reflect, breathe, smile, and move on.

Now when someone asks you what your New Year’s Resolution is, what are you going to say?

Michelle Rivas is a Founding Creator and wellness blogger. When she's not writing for, you can find her at