It was one the biggest stories dominating the entertainment headlines last week — the Twitter battle of music divas! Nicki Minaj vs. Taylor Swift. In case you don’t know the background, Minaj took a jab at Swift by saying that the country-turned-pop artist took home a Video Music Award because her svelte figure is exactly the kind of body that is celebrated. Swift then retorted saying that women shouldn't fight each other, but support each other. And it evolved even more than that! To get the detailed chisme of what went down, check out a recap we did last week.
Whatever your opinion is on the matter, the big question remains: Why do beautiful and talented women tear each other down? Women are still struggling with being seen as equal to men especially in the workplace. On average, a woman is paid 77 cents for every dollar a man is paid. Can you believe it, amigas?! ¡Imaginen las posibilidades si trabajamos juntas! This reminds me of one of my favorite sayings: “¡Juntos podemos!”
One of the most powerful and immediate ways we can help build each other up is by mentorship. Here are a few tips for mentors and mentees, alike, so we can help be the strong and successful women we were meant to be:
Set Goals for Your Relationship
- What are your expectations out of the mentorship?
- What do you hope to gain from this relationship?
- How often do you want to contact each other?
Think about it, amigas, if you have certain goals and expectations for your relationship with your man, then you should have the same for all relationships. Clearly communicating these goals will help the mentorship progress and develop into a strong relationship.
Consistent Contact is a Must
Contacting each other twice a year won’t help in developing a strong connection that benefits either of you. In order to get the most out of your relationship, consistent contact is imperative.
We’re all busy, so you likely won’t have the time to talk every day and see each other each week. However, maintaining some form of contact will assist in developing a strong mentorship. It can be a simple e-mail or phone call every few weeks to check in or meeting up for some coffee to catch up. Whatever that contact may be, consistency is essential for a successful relationship.
Be an Active Listener
So you’ve established your mentorship goals and you contact your mentor every few weeks, now what else could be important? Listen to each other! It may sound simple but you would be amazed how active listening may be difficult for some.
Active listening requires both parties to engage in the conversation by asking questions, taking notes, providing advice, and using verbal and non-verbal actions. Why bother with starting a mentorship if you won’t listen so you can support each other?
All in all, the moral of the Taylor Swift-Nicki Minaj Twitter battle is let's take this moment to support each other and lift each other up! Being a mentor/mentee in the workplace is one way to do so. So find a mentor/mentee at work and see what new heights you can go together. ¡Juntas podemos!