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Seduction is a powerful tool that can get us almost anything we want. It’s all about being intentional with our communication; when we use our body language and words in the most clear and succinct way possible we have a better chance at getting our deepest wishes met and understood. We can use this skill at work. We can use it when we’re at home. And we can definitely use it when we are getting to know a new love interest over text.

In fact, there’s a straightforward method to seduce a man over text, and it doesn’t involve sending a selfie of your boobs or underwear. You just have to be strategic. The shorter and clearer the better. It’s the easiest way to help someone understand who we are and what we want from them. And I get it — sometimes it really feels like you need three long texts to get your point across. But in the words of Sweet Brown, ain’t nobody got time for that. 

Instead, to truly show him all your charm, wit, and effortless grace, you’re going to have to master the art of being pithy. And luckily, these four tips below will help you get there pretty quickly. Check them out below. 

1. Use 15 words or fewer. Whenever a friend shows me a thread to help her troubleshoot a love issue, I’m often met with the visual every time: about five-word replies from him, and about 50-plus words from her. No man wants to clear a half hour of his schedule just to read a long text monologue from you. Especially when it’s filled with passive language, tons of LOLs, and a few jokes that awkwardly hide all your true feelings. Instead, keep your responses short and to the point. Pique his curiosity and allow him to ask for more details. A shroud of mystery over your initial conversation helps you to stay exciting and fresh in his mind.

2. Up your emoji game. Emojis are your best friend if you want to keep things short, sweet, and playful. But if you really want to stand out, try downloading other special keyboards that showcase your personal interest and pique his interest. Apps like the Ebroji keyboard from Grey’s Anatomy star Jesse Williams will put an awesome collection of gifs at your fingertips to be either flirty, fun, or sarcastic with. And television networks like FX have keyboards that feature funny characters from shows like Archer and It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia. While everyone else is texting eggplants and kiss emojis, you’ll have upped your game into something both personal and unforgettable.

3. Send an adult gif. Nowadays you can find a gif of almost anything you can think of — including ones of a more mature, seductive nature. If you’ve been talking to your babe for a while and have the wiggle room to be incredibly direct with your texting seduction, try finding a Tumblr with erotic gifs to get his blood pumping. Just a simple image of a kiss on the neck or one of a hand slowly undoing his belt is just enough to keep your game a little mysterious while at the same time gives him a very clear signal to get in your sheets ASAP.

4. Send the right pic. Often what seduces a man the most has far less to do with sending your sexiest photo. I can’t tell you how many times a man has asked for a picture of my hands just after a manicure. Or how my phone blows up when I send along a selfie just before bed with no makeup and my hair artistically flowing around my face. If you want to really drive your boo wild, instead of sending a picture of all your goodies, try only sending him photos that allow him to fill in the blanks with his own imagination. Pictures of fresh nails, for example, help him imagine your fingers on his skin. And a shy photo in bed late at night only makes him want to hop inside the sheets with you.