We’ve all been there. Trying so hard to get over that guys who broke our hearts, only to suddenly have our Instagram feeds assaulted by a disgustingly adorable photo of our ex and his new boo, faster than we can delete his number off our phones.
Seriously, what the hell? Why does it take so long for us to get over a breakup while our former S.O. manages to find love again with some fulanita in no time?
Well, new research conducted by Match’s Singles in America found that men simply get over breakups faster — excuse us while we roll our eyes. After surveying over 5,000 men and women, the study found that it takes 50 percent of men about a month to get over a break up, while the average woman took about four months to mend her broken heart.
“Men are not reinforced or socialized for emotional communication the same way as women,” licensed clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., told Glamour.
“Relationships may often have a different functionality for men, and men at a certain younger age may not feel the same pressure about family planning and marriage.”
Craig Morris, a research associate at Binghamton University, says that women are evolved to invest more in relationships than men.
“A brief romantic encounter could lead to nine months of pregnancy followed by many years of lactation for an ancestral woman, while the man may have 'left the scene' literally minutes after the encounter, with no further biological investment,” he said, according to Medical Daily. “Hence, the loss of a relationship with a high-quality mate 'hurts' more for a woman."
Interestingly enough, though, a separate study suggests that while a breakup might cause us women more pain at the moment, we actually recover better over the long-term, noting that while men do move on faster, they don’t always heal fully.
"The man will likely feel the loss deeply and for a very long period of time as it 'sinks in' that he must 'start competing' all over again to replace what he has lost,” Morris said. “Or worse still, come to the realization that the loss is irreplaceable.”
Well, at least that provides a little bit of solace. We’ll take it.