Pope Francis is sharing his thoughts on marriage, and it may not be exactly what’d you’d expect from the world’s highest-ranking Catholic. While addressing the Diocese of Rome’s pastoral congress on Thursday, the pope shared why he felt the majority of today’s sacramental marriages are not valid. 

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“They say ‘yes, for the rest of my life!’ but they don’t know what they are saying,” the pontiff explained, according to Catholic News Agency. “Because they have a different culture. They say it, they have good will, but they don’t know.”

Pope Francis also explained that for today’s couples, marriage preparation is a problem, and based on his comments, seemed to think living together before getting hitched is a good idea. 

“They prefer to cohabitate,” the pope said of some of the couples he came across during marriage prep courses in Argentina. “ . . . to accompany, to wait, and to help them to mature, help fidelity to mature.”

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He added, “I’ve seen a lot of fidelity in these cohabitations, and I am sure that this is a real marriage, they have the grace of a real marriage because of their fidelity.” 

How about that, Abuela?