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It’s easy to get stuck in the same old dating rut. After all, binge-watching Netflix and downing pinot with bae in your old college T-shirt is just so damn comfortable on a Friday night. It’s the dating equivalent to popping Eggos in the toaster for breakfast — no fuss, no muss, and guaranteed deliciousness.

But once in a while, it's good to change up your diet, and your relationship is no different. Doing new things with your boo can be a great way for you guys to learn new things about each other and connect on a deeper level. Plus, it’s a lot easier to do than you think. You don’t have to scour Yelp just to find the most expensive places on the planet. Below are four sexy ways you can change up date night, right here and right now.

1. Try role playing in public. Let your imagination run wild here and have fun showing off your personality. If nothing else, this sexy game of charades will give you both weeks of material to look back on and laugh at.

Not sure where to start? Try it out at a bar. Arrive approximately 30 minutes before your BF or GF gets there. Have a drink, warm up to the bartender, and maybe chat up the cutie sitting next to you. Soon enough, have your love approach you at the bar and pretend you guys are meeting for the first time. Spend the entire night pretending to be someone else (a flight attendant, a lawyer, a spy) and enjoy the sexy feeling of getting to know each other all over again.

2. See a burlesque show. Burlesque has grown more popular over the years as women are often encouraged to embrace their natural sexual selves during shows. Up the sexual ante by going to one with your lover. After hours of watching the hypnotic dancing and twirling, you won't be able to wait to get home and strip down for your own private show.

3. Make out under the stars. Remember when you used to have to drive somewhere and make out with your boo so your parents wouldn't catch you guys? The fun doesn't have to stop just because you're an adult. Hit up Google Maps, find a gorgeous (and safe) vista near you, and park your car for a night under the stars. Bring along a bottle of wine, some snacks, and get ready to feel like a teenager again. 

4. Splurge on a room at a hotel. I don't know what it is, but staying at a hotel just feels so luxurious. One of the easiest, quickest ways to shake up your relationship? Book it to your nearest hotel and spend the night with bae in a bed that's not your own. Whatever happens — you fall asleep immediately, you stay up all night talking or watching Netflix — I guarantee you'll feel closer than ever. 

And I encourage you to go all out and cheesy with this one. Book the room with the hot tub. Order the champagne and the chocolate-covered strawberries. It's a little cliché, a little kitschy, and ultimately, exactly what you dreamed being an adult really meant when you were younger and watching telenovelas, so don't act like you don’t want an evening of decadence. To book a great deal, you can even try an app like HotelTonight, which provides discounts that make this sort of thing easy to do on a whim.

Got more sexy, simple date ideas? I’d really love to hear them! Post them below and help your fellow Vivala girls out!

Breonna Rodriguez is a Founding Creator and love and relationships blogger. When she's not writing for, you can find her at