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You're thinking that I must be on my high horse, but there are a couple of reasons why I swipe left on Tinder on a guy with poor grammar. First of all, I write and edit for living and I make that very clear on my profile. So why not make a concerted effort to at least make your opening introduction on Tinder grammatically correct?
And perhaps the most important reason: I don't waste my time with a guy who messages me "Your so cute" or "Are you from their?" (eek!) because I've noticed a certain pattern about men who either don't know the difference between the two or don't care to correct it. In my experience, I've noticed that the non-grammar-loving men are sort of careless and have this disregard for life in general. I haven't conducted a formal study but the similarities are unreal. They are just not as detail-oriented as a girl who likes a thoughtful and loving beau to be.
Either way, I don't like it. And, l'll confess, it wasn't an easy thing to admit to myself because I was scared I was just being a picky bitch, but honestly, I can't help it if something like that turns me off. I absolutely love writing, language, and any ol' thing that involves communicating with words. (File this under #journalismprobs.)
After my friends heard my trials and tribulations, they suggested I try another dating site, because perhaps Tinder was at fault. But there are a plethora of men on Tinder who are college-educated and even some good-looking entrepreneurs. So I don't think that's the issue at all. To top if off, last year I dated a guy I met on Tinder for a bit who was a copywriter. No grammar issues there! But perhaps that was just dumb luck.
And, yes, I've given these grammar-disabled beaus the benefit of the doubt that perhaps they were oh so excited to message me that they in fact couldn't help but send me a typo. I'm no monster, I'm fair. Pero when you keep doing it, well then that's just a bad habit. It's really hard to take a compliment like "Your so pritty" without being completely distracted.
I've even contemplated writing something ballsy on my profile to keep the grammatically disabled away. But I've never worked up the courage to because I didn't want to come off as too aggressive. But I have seen MANY profiles where men will have education and (gasp!) weight requirements. So why the hell can't I have a guy who has respect for the English language?
I'm not on Tinder right now, but if I get back on, I've promised myself to write at the bottom of my profile, "If you don't know or care to know the difference between 'Your' and 'You're' then graciously swipe left. I ain't the one." I might as well weed those out from the get-go, right?