The concept of ghosting is absolutely, 100% totally unacceptable to me. A dude can have the balls to cut you off mid-sentence in a meeting, but have zero courage when it come to telling a girl that he just don’t want to keep talking to her anymore. It’s bullshit. And so is the excuse that they think we’ll shatter into a million little pieces forever. No — we’ll cry, grab some wine, and then soon after, a better penis. And a few months later, because we’re spiritual gangsters, we’ll probably have the decency to forgive the guy too!

So what’s the deal? Why do guy really ghost when the truth is really not that bad of an option? Luckily, I found a few amazing friends to break it down in a group video text. It’s not personal, they insist, but it’s not right either! Check it out.

Breonna Rodriguez is a Founding Creator and love and relationships blogger. When she's not writing for Vivala.com, you can find her at zenfulie.com.