When it comes to dating, I’m as old-school as it gets. But I’ve heard plenty of online dating success stories and have friends that use the sites and apps, so out of curiosity, I decided to explore this cyber world.
My online dating stint began when one of my best friends came over and told me about her recent awesome date and how I should try using Match.com or Bumble. My first reaction was “no way” — and then I stopped myself. I mean, what would be the harm in trying something new? After all, I did say that 2016 was going to be a year of trying new things.
The first site she had me log onto was Match.com. I created a fake profile and began to see dozens and dozens of men’s photos pop up with their interests and info. I instantly felt like I was shopping for a pair of shoes, except none of them was a fit. I didn’t like judging these guys by their appearance and I found myself looking at their exterior because, in the end, it is mostly what you’re doing on these sites.
Just for kicks, I wanted to see what kind of women were on it. I wasn’t prepared for the reality — rows and rows of gorgeous single moms of all ages. This truly tugged at my heart because I often hear that single moms have it the worst when it comes to dating.
Suffice it to say, Match.com was definitely not a match for me.
Next, I tried Bumble. This was even worse. Bumble is basically photos and photos of people hoping to date. There’s no personality description or a likes and dislikes section. If you like how the person looks, you swipe to the left and can start getting to know them. Seriously? I mean, this is as shallow as it gets. I swiped and swiped and swiped away.
Of course, I stumbled upon some guys that were handsome, but if I swiped to the left, that would mean I was basing my desire to meet this person on their looks — and they’d probably do the same to me. No, thank you. I’ve never been about that.
My less than 24-hour experience in the world of online dating made me realize that I’m all about spiritual connections. I feel like everyone that has come into my life was placed in my path for a reason, and I prefer to keep it that way.
If you haven’t tried online dating, I'd say give it a whirl. It might work out for you like it has for some people I know. After all, they’ve met some pretty great partners. It’s just not for me.