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I know it’s tempting to resent this time of year. While everyone else is seemingly in love and saturating your Facebook wall with it, here you are with a bowl full of pork lo mein, binging on Inside Amy Schumer episodes for only the 52nd night in a row.

But look, there’s no reason to get pissy about Valentine’s Day. It’s the one day of the year where people like to celebrate love. And the way I figure it, if you love YOU, then it’s the perfect day to do just that. Here I’ve thought of 10 special ways to focus on loving yourself even more:

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1) Host a vision board party

Every moment from this word forward is a new opportunity to make your life exactly as you want it. So grab some girlfriends, a few magazines, a cans of Sofia champagne, and use your energy to manifest your true vision of love and a happy, healthy life. 

2) Finally, take that trip to IKEA you've been meaning to do and redecorate your apartment.

You know it’s time to retire that raggedy-ass shoe rack you've got hanging in your closet, ma! Use this V Day to get your home life in order. And then enjoy the simultaneous treat of watching other couples fight venomously over which shelf to add to their PAX system. 

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3) Write that novel.

You know, the one that’s been sitting in the back of your mind, and you’ve been meaning, meaning, meaning to write it one day. To get started, organize your plots, twists, and characters — try using a storytelling app like StorySkeleton or Scrivener. They make telling the part of the story that’s in your mind clearest much, much easier.

4) Get some sleep.

If you’ve just broken up with your boo, and you know there’s no way in hell this day won’t be a nightmare for you, this could be a good day to just rest. Experts at the National Institutes of Health say that with more sleep, our brains think clearer and we operate at a totally different level — i.e., you’re far less likely to call him on V Day and beg for another chance at love. Grab some sleepy time tea, and wash them sheets, ladybug. This could be the brain massage your soul has been longing for.

5) Give your love to someone else.

Help your mom clear out the garden for spring. Or watch TV with your elderly neighbor who’s been divorced three times, has a thing for cats, and is really, really, really all alone. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, spend time with the love that is currently in your life. If all the love we needed in life was dependent on one person, how much fun would that really be? So keep thinking big picture when it comes to love in your life and celebrate it in every corner you find it.

6) Update your LinkedIn profile and résumé.

Nothing says I love myself and my career like being able to hand over your updated résumé at the drop of a dime. If you haven’t looked at your CV in a while, it’s time to give it a look. Fill it with words that say you’re action-oriented and a natural #girlboss. You never know when it will come in handy.

7) Get out of town.

V Day falls on the Sunday before President’s Day this year, which means you probably have an upcoming three-day weekend to take advantage of. If you've got the pennies, just get the hell out of town. Somewhere nice where you can get drunk and maybe snag some V Day sex after all.

8) Give yourself an emotional enema.

If this day really has you fired up with an uncontrollable rage about love, then, girl, you might have some shit to heal up, and maybe it’s time you had a good cry. So grab some tissues, maybe a little pinot noir, and call in all the big guns: Bridget Jones's Diary and Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason, Pretty Woman, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Melancholia, I Heart Huckabees, and Interstellar — the works. Have yourself a cry. Contemplate what you really want from love, and allow yourself some space to feel some things you’ve probably had buried for a very, very long time.

9) Print your life.

We take so many pictures with our phones, but rarely take the time to reflect on them. I’m a really big fan of the Walgreens app: It allows me to upload pictures from my phone, Instagram, or Facebook feed and send them to print at my local store. An hour later, I’m stuffing them in frames and reflecting on all the good times I’ve had. It’s a great way to remember that your life is pretty good after all.

10) Don’t think about Valentine's Day.

I mean, it’s a no-brainer. Despite all the heart decorations and annoying Facebook posts, you have the complete innate ability to look at this day and really not give a shit about it. If your aim is to grow into a spiritual gangster in this life, then look at this day as an opportunity to practice non-judgment. It’s just a day, like any other day. And it needs nothing from you, and you owe nothing to it. Just exist, do you, and let it be what it needs to be. 

Breonna Rodriguez is a Founding Creator and love and relationships blogger. When she's not writing for, you can find her at